Choose Happy

I truly believe that at the base of a healthy life is a healthy mindset. Although this doesn’t come easy, it’s important in order to lead a clear and positive lifestyle. I’m going to be sharing some tips that I have been using to help lead the most positive life I can!

What makes you truly happy? What brings you joy? You might be quick to think that nothing can, especially if you are going through a rough time in your life, but I am here to TELL you that SOMETHING in this world brings you happiness. It might be the dogs you see on your street every morning, the smell of coffee because it reminds you of your Mom of the sun during the summer.

For me, I love summer and warm weather. When I am in a warm climate, I am the happiest version of myself. I love the smell of coffee, it reminds me of home. When I am regularly working out, I feel the best version of myself. I love diffusing essential oils at night to help me sleep and cuddling with my mans. I love family time, especially when we travel. I also LOVE traveling and exploring, even if it is local.


Here are some tips you can use to kick-start your road to happiness.

Sleep habits matter…

Force yourself to get out of bed in the morning! I can assure you that no one on the planet likes to leave the comfort of their bed. I use the sleep cycle app to track my sleeping patterns; it also wakes me up slowly in the morning which I appreciate.

  • prep your coffee or tea for the next morning, so it’s something quick to do right when you wake up

  • get at least 7-8 hours of rest a night (if you go to bed at 11, you can wake up at 6 with 7 hours of rest)

  • disconnect from your phone at least 15 mins before bed.

When you are going through a hard time…

  • Reflect on what you are thankful for now or in the future

  • Realize that life can be so much worse, and you are meant to be where you are in that moment

When your job / school sucks…

  • Be proactive

    • Ask yourself, why do you hate your situation? Is it the pay? Is it your major? Is it the location you’re in? Some of these things are temporary (I went to school IN Lafayette, Indianan but knew I wouldn’t move to that town) and others can be changed (like your major… I changed my major twice and still graduated in 4 years… lots of summer school)

When you haven’t reached your goals…

  • Back track & reflect on why this may be

  • Make smaller, more attainable goals. Be realistic with yourself and start small

When your family / relationships / friendships aren’t how you imagined…

  • Know that some people may never change (you can’t teach an old dog new tricks)

    • This is especially hard with family. Not everyone has a perfect family dynamic, and know that you can always learn from your past and make your future family how you’ve always imagined

  • Cutting toxic friends out of your life is one of the hardest things to do, but once it’s done you will feel amazing

    • Ask yourself if your friend is lifting you up, supporting your dreams and is your biggest fan. If not, or if they make you feel horrible, then maybe it’s time to cut that shit


Think over some of these points I have listed before. How can you implement just one into your daily life? Remember, start small so you will see success; maybe start with 5 minute meditation, winding down before bed or prepping coffee/tea the night before your morning routine. Consistency is key to success, and I truly believe it will help you choose happiness this year.

While I was reflecting and writing this post, I thought of my brother who is currently going through confirmation as a Catholic. As his sponsor, I want to make sure that I help him lead the most positive life I can. Not to put my brother on blast, but he tends to pick things in his life that he may be struggling with and hope they were different. It’s something a lot of us fall victim to, but always keep in mind that the situation you are going through can be 100 times worse. Ok ok… this probably sounds SO harsh but I urge you not to victimize yourself. Try to find the positive in every moment of your day, or at least once a day. By reflecting on a blessing you are thankful for, you will be able to work toward a more positive filled life. By eliminating negativity and the “poor me” mentality, you will find clarity in your day and outlooks on life.

Always keep in mind that life is too short to take it so seriously. Try to laugh, treat yourself to a coffee (in your reusable cup because… duh) or go on a walk to clear your hear. Reduce your time spent on social media, and get out and explore. Spend time with loved ones, volunteering or even spending time with yourself.

All in all, know that you truly are not alone. If you are feeling like you have no one to turn to, I am always here to chat. If you aren’t even comfortable with that, find peace in the Lord, any God you may pray to or time away from your phone; try meditation or even yoga, it does wonders. Finding something that fills your free time (for me, it’s blogging and yoga) helps to clear your mind. Don’t overload your plate and be realistic.

Everything will work out in the end. You are the driving force of your life; choose happy!

X, Natalie